Staying in Touch

I'm a firm believer that relationships are work, whether they are romantic relationships or friendships. But I don't think that's a bad thing. In fact, I actually think the opposite. I think it's a really good thing. If you're working on a relationship, it means that you're making sure that you stay a part of that person's life. For example, ever since Kelsey moved away, we've been keeping in touch with each other. We mostly talk through text messages but there have also been phone calls as well as Face-time chats. I even went to go visit her new place in Kentucky a few months ago. (Click here to read about it). We've talked about trying to take another vacation together some time in the future as well. We're always talking and keeping each other up-to-date on what's going on in our lives. To me, that shows me just how important I am to her and vice versa. Even though we now live over 1,000 miles away from each other, we're still doing our best to maintain our friendship and make sure that it's just as strong as ever. To me, that's true friendship. We aren't letting the distance come between us.

I understand that life goes on and people get busy. It's not practical to think that I'll be in constant communication with my friends and I don't. That goes for my other friends as well. I still consider myself friends with many of the people that I left behind when I moved out of Florida. We talk when we can and meet up whenever I come down for a visit.

But it really shows me how close Kelsey and I are because we are still making that effort to be there for each other. And I know that we always will. I have no doubt that if I called her at 2 a.m. and told her that I needed her that she'd figure out a way to be there for me. And she knows that I would do the same for her in a heartbeat.

I still miss her like crazy every day and life hasn't been the same since she left. There is nobody that can ever replace her. And it feels really good to know that she's still my best friend and that she's still there for me no matter what. When people move away, most of the time they promise to keep in touch with the people that they leave behind. In my opinion, it's a rarity and a gift when they come through on those promises. I'm so appreciative that I found someone that did. I always knew that Kelsey was a special friend and that I was blessed to have her in my life. Her effort to hold onto our friendship proves that I was right.

-Chelsea

True Friends

I think that things like love and friendship are hard to define because everyone has their own definitions of what it personally means to them. So I thought that I'd share what a true friend is to me.

If you're my true friend:

• We can call each other any time, day or night, if we need help or just need a friend to talk to.
• We have tons of silly inside jokes that only we can understand.
• We know all of each other's dirty secrets and flaws, yet still love each other.

• We can act like absolute idiots around each other and not care.
• We can sit around eating junk food and watching movies and still have a good time.
• We can go months without talking but when we do talk it's like nothing has changed.

• We can always be honest with each other without fear of judgment. 
• We support each other's decisions no matter what.
• We love each other unconditionally. 

I'd just like to point out that this is my 100th blog post! I can't believe that I made it to this milestone already! Thanks for reading! 

-Chelsea